Midlife Romance – The Second Time Around
Recently I had my palm read by a fortune teller. Generally my future was looking good but then she said something rather curious. She told me I would rekindle a romance with an ex-boyfriend. This got me thinking about who she saw lurking on the convoluted lines of my palm.
The first ex-boyfriend admitted he was gay and went on to have a merry old time with many male partners. This immediately disqualifies him as a potential candidate for renewed affection.
Another ex-boyfriend is happily married with children. We keep in touch sporadically and have remained friends but neither of us has any romantic feelings for the other.
Years ago, long after we broke up, I had an email exchange with the third and last potential candidate. He informed me he had settled down with the ‘love of his life’. This rather blunt and pertinent fact means I don’t get the chance to rule him out because he’s already done that for me.
This leaves me with several conclusions:
a) the fortune teller is full of crap
b) there is an unaccounted for ex-boyfriend which no doubt would come as a surprise to both of us.
c) boyfriend may be a metaphor for purchasing a comfortable chair, hiring a dvd and getting a cat – which gives you as much, if not more comfort anyway (in which case option a & b are void).
In my next post I’ll explore the research around second time romances and the success rate of dating your ex.
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About the author
Sue Bell is an entertainment writer and author of Backpacked: A mostly true story, Beat Street and When Dreamworks came to Stanley.